4 wheel drive vehicle advice needed!

I need your advice and wisdom. We are shopping for a new family vehicle. I would love other veteran mom's opinions.

Here are my current criteria:

We must pay cash for it (so new and leased vehicles are out)
Must have 4 wheel drive for Utah
I want captain chairs in the middle row so the baby and my 3 year old can't touch each other
3 rows of seats=a 7 people vehicle
Trunk space to fit a double stroller
TV screen and good speakers inside to rock out
Safe with air bags etc.
Color is medium important- Silver is my wish!

What do drive that you love along my same lines? HELP!